Letting Go Of The Shoulds

Should
A word I keep repeating to myself
You’ve should have
You should
You know you should have….

Should
A word that spells
Regrets
Perceived failure
Blame
Even self-loathing….

Letting go of the shoulds
Is what I choose to do
Letting go of regret
And letting in gratitude
Letting go of blame
And letting in grace.

 

“Should is a futile word. It’s about what didn’t happen. It belongs in a parallel universe. It belongs in another dimension of space.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Blind Assassin

“Women most often experience shame as a web of layered, conflicting, and competing social-community expectations. The expectations dictate who we should be, what we should be, how we should be.”
― Brené Brown

(This is linked to Kate Motaung’s Five Minute Friday – the prompt is ‘should’ )

3 Replies to “Letting Go Of The Shoulds”

  1. I agree, the shoulds are often not very helpful. We need to let go of them and let in grace. I love that Margaret Atwood quote. Glad to be your FMF neighbour today. Hope you have a good Friday!

  2. We’re definitely on the same wavelength in thinking about “should”. I notice you quoted Brene Brown. I’m reading The Soul of Shame by Curt Thompson. He quotes Brown quite a bit. If you haven’t read it, you might like it.
    Joining you from FMF #35

  3. Great thoughts here, Corrine.

    One of the real killers in ‘should have’ is that it negates all the good that followed the regretted decision or circumstance.

    We don’t own our past; God does. We can only have the moment that is upon us, and putting everything else behind, we’ve got to press toward the mark…

    Yeah, Paul was a bright dude.

    #1 at FMF this week.

    http://blessed-are-the-pure-of-heart.blogspot.com/2017/05/your-dying-spouse-306-but-i-still-trust.html

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